We’ve all asked ourselves this question. What do women want?
As guys, we generally want success, respect, and sex. Those usually equate to love for us.
Women want something different They want you to:
1. Be A Great Leader
Leadership can be defined as the ability to give guidance and direction verbally or by modeling. It’s not about control.
Women want to feel like they are with a leader but not a dictator. In relationships, women can give us the level of trust that borders on livelihood.
It’s important that they hear from you on matters such as where you want the relationship to go and the goals you have for it.
Always consider the impact on the relationship instead of the individual when making decision – your individual feelings aren’t as important as what’s going to be best for the both of you.
Initiate and engage in activities that will help the relationship grow – Showing a commitment to the mental, emotional, and physical well-being of the relationship will help to solidify the bond and attraction between you and your girl.
2 .Communicate Actively
It’s no secret that women talk more than men. There is a concept known as gender jabber which highlights the differences in the number of words that men and women speak. Louanne Brizendine, MD (Professor at University of California –San Francisco) has found that women speak an average of 20000 words per day and guys use about 7000 words per day.
We need to listen more than we speak.
If we try to over talk the ladies it will become competitive. They are hard wired to emote verbally and share their thoughts. If we are speaking just as much as they are, there is a chance that we are not listening to everything that.
You don’t need to be a philosopher but you do need to ensure that you’re choosing your words wisely because you talk less. Talking less gives you less time to explain if you say something wrong or offensive. Using fewer words doesn’t always allow you to be as detailed as possible.
Lastly, learn to “speak her language”. Your lady will have specific tells that mean specific things. It could be nonverbal or verbal, but she has them nonetheless. Hone in on those nuanced communication methods. When you pick up on them, she will appreciate it more and you will earn more point with her.
3. Put Others First
This goes beyond not being selfish as in not wanting to share. Selfless also means that thinking of others before self. The selfless trait allows a man to be a giver especially when it counts.
When displaying this characteristic, you’re showing that what she values is just as important (and at times more important) that what you need. This same quality will be reciprocated by your woman. It’s innate in her.
4. Have Manners
What’s worse than being out with a person who doesn’t have good temperament? It’s a person who doesn’t have good manners. It doesn’t matter if you were raised in a majority male home or that you are in all male-dominated sports.
A “please” and a “thank you” can a long way.
Manners can be displayed in a bevy of different ways through
Chivalry, Being polite and knowing your Dating Etiquette.
5. Be Family Oriented
All women don’t have the desire for marriage and a family, but the overwhelming majority do have this need. Being a guy that wants family or has children and is present with your kids increases your attractiveness exponentially.
Nowadays, kids aren’t as big of a deal breaker as they once were. Your chances aren’t necessarily shot if you have kids. With that, being a great father and provider to your children shows her you want children.
Being a family oriented man also means that during conversations and throughout dating she will see that you would prioritize her as your wife.
Another way to show that you are a family man is to allow her to see the interaction between you and your family. Even if your family isn’t close, express to her you desire to change that story. Let her know that you want to be close to your children and don’t want to repeat the cycle that you were once in.
6. Be Vulnerable
This is often difficult for guys to do. We pride ourselves on being manly…having machismo but the truth is that we have feelings just like women.
They need to see and experience that you are comfortable being open with them.
Allowing her to encounter your vulnerability will increase trust. It shows that you trust her with the deep and dark places in your life.
Don’t do this in the beginning stages of getting to know someone. Many times that can be too much too soon. You will know when the time is right. Remember, there is fearlessness in being vulnerable.
7. Stay Informed & Educated
Keeping abreast on what’s happening around the globe and can talk about it is a quality that shows that you are a part of the world. You don’t have to be a political analyst or a philanthropist.
A gentleman who is connected to the world around him proves to his lady that he understands that he’s part of something that’s bigger than him. It displays that you know that the world doesn’t revolve around you and your experience. This is a key component in being compassionate.
8. Have A Sense Of Humor
Not the type of humor that’s crass and insensitive, or even the kind that jokes about everything. But a great sense of humor that’s well timed.
Having a great sense of humor communicates to her that in tough times you will be able to smile through them. It will help anchor her trust in you as a confidante.
An often forgotten part of humor is wit. Wit can be defined as the keen perception and cleverly apt expression of those connections between ideas that awaken amusement and pleasure. Ladies like a guy who’s quick on his feet and can have creative playful banter. A witty guy have life and vitality; he loves fun. She’ll love it too.
9. Be Adventurous & Spontaneous
Women like a guy who isn’t afraid to try new things. Men have been categorized as creatures of habit who like a routine. If you’re able to throw a monkey wrench in that perception, your attractiveness will have shot through the roof.
This sense of adventure can be seen by:
Trying new foods
Going new places
Picking up a new hobby
The overall gist is that no one wants to be committed to falling into a rut, so being adventurous or adopting a perspective that enjoys trying new things from time to time can boast wonderfully for a man trying to catch the eye or keep the interest of a lady.
10. Know How To Fix Things
Don’t just think frugal or cheap. In fact, ladies hate cheap! Resourceful is a mixture of the ultimate networker and the MacGyver. The key here is not that you necessarily know how to do everything but more that you know how to get things done. Or that you know someone who knows someone that can get it done.
It’s important that you are able to leverage your:
to reach your goals. This is great in the lean times of life. Additionally, this is a way to reassure your woman that you don’t deal with too much pride. Leveraging relationships is a fancy way to say “ask for help”. If you are too prideful to acknowledge that you need help and your ego is too big to accept help, then your relationship is in turmoil. Prove your resourcefulness early on. Life will always give you an opportunity to do so.
Bonus Tip #11 – Be A Man Of Style
I could not leave this one off the list! Men of style display a confidence that you don’t usually outwardly see. You don’t have to be the best-dressed man in the room. It is critical that you pay attention to you appearance and take pride in the fact that you will represent your wife or girlfriend even when she is not around.
Style goes beyond clothes and can be seen in elements such as
Being a guy that displays these attributes will make you more attractive. You have be aware that she’s not like us in that the physical is the most important thing. She wants to feel secure, regarded, and loved. Providing those things in the context of the above list will help her fall and stay in love!